High Conflict Couples Therapy
& Co-Parenting Discord
In therapy sessions, couples will detail their individual roles and responsibilities in the relationship: (house management, parenting, finances, etc..) and process the impact this has on their resentment towards their partner. Couples will make amends with their sense of frustration surrounding how much of themselves they have given up to make the relationship work and make intentional choices about their roles within a newfound culture of compromise.
I compassionately challenge couples to develop insight about themselves and help couples rekindle the spirit of expecting the best of one another and giving the best of themselves. As a result of our work together, couples practice habits that restore their connection. Once trust is reestablished and a validating space for self disclosure has occurred, couples will have developed the foundation to build their optimal sex life. Here, I assist couples in exploring their history of shame and trauma in sex, and achieving a mutually satisfying intimate life.
For coparents, we will explore and make amends with the unresolved conflict that impede upon their ability to make cohesive decisions in parenting. Learning and practicing compassionate listening skills is a significant part of the process. Coparents will detail their sense of dissatisfaction surrounding the parenting duties/schedules and come up with a lifestyle that provides stability for their children and provides equity between the parents.
Areas of Expertise:
- High Conflict/ineffective problem-solving skills
- Resentment surrounding shared roles and responsibilities in housework, child raising, and finances
- Differences in parenting decisions (specially as it relates to “behavioral” young kids and adolescents struggling with truancy, substance use, or labeled by the system with ODD)
- Misalignment of cultural expectations
- Betrayal/infidelity history
- Ineffective boundaries with in-laws (especially as it relates to cultural norms)
- Diminished sex life
- Disconnection caused from lack of quality time
- Blended family concerns
Gottman Therapy – Couple’s therapy approach backed by over 40 years of research that facilitates “dyadic” communication in session (conversation between the couple with clinician stepping in as necessary as opposed to 3 way conversation directed towards the clinician).
Gestalt Techniques – Approach that uses past history to develop clarity on how behavioral concerns are showing up “in the now”. Direct style that compassionately challenges client to see themselves through an objective lens. Connects body language and movement to demonstrate client’s hidden feelings.